Philosopher and motivational speaker Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” Due to Dyer’s upbringing in an orphanage, he understood a thing or two about self-motivation. His upbringing and experiences became a part of Dyer’s appeal as he moved from the military to academia and later, an author and motivational speaker.
As we’re sure Dr. Dyer knew, motivation requires commitment to daily actions or what readers of Jeff Olson’s book The Slight Edge have come to understand as a simple, positive action repeated consistently over time. That’s the slight edge difference. For many of us here at Nerium International, self-motivation is a three-step process supported by (1) intellectual honesty, (2) learning from and sharing experiences, and (3) recognizing and seizing the moments that will change your life!
Often times, your gut is telling you what needs to be done; still, you’re procrastinating. So, what’s the problem? Perhaps you’re afraid or concerned that your goals are too far reached and you’ll end up failing.
There’s an often-paraphrased saying that goes,“It’s better to be liked for who you are than to be loved for who you aren’t.” Not to mention, keeping up appearances to impress others is an exhausting and miserable idea. Being honest about your fears, hopes, goals, and values can help you focus on what’s most important to you as well as on what’s most important for you. Right here, right now, if you’re not where you want to be in your life, your relationship, or your financial health, intellectual honesty is the first step toward personal wellness.
Athlete and actor Bruce Lee once said, “Mistakes are always forgivable if one has the courage to admit them.” There are biographies and memoirs that provide ample stories about how others have made it through difficult times. Many of history’s most admired people can provide personal object lessons to learn and grow from.
Whether you’re reading the stories of others or talking to people you consider influential in your own life, it may be beneficial to realize that all we have control over is the planning of our next move forward. “Whatever has to be done,” as Dr. Dyer said. Whether you are born into a life of challenge or struggle, or whether those challenges come later in life, your response makes all the difference.
Again, the commitment to making things better is not a one-time action, but a regular practice that must be committed to doing to help change your response and philosophy to your situation. Perhaps it’s time to start that personal journal to answer honest questions about yourself or finding outside assistance like a coach or therapist to help move you out of your own way. Maybe it’s about finding a new social circle to gain a positive influence. As Jeff Olson said in The Slight Edge, it’s about “the things you do every single day, the things that don’t look dramatic, that don’t even look like they matter, do matter.”
People don’t choose to be miserable. Fear brings about inaction which causes paralysis. In these moments reach out for help. Positive encouragement may be closer than you think. The choice is yours.